As a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist I have helped hundreds of couples learn how to be happily married. I help couples turn their marriage around especially after affairs and other hurts have threatened to destroy their relationship. Allow me to take you through my marriage coaching program where I will help you heal from the past hurts and establish a new mutually satisfying marriage. I will guide you with Christian values to develop a healthy and happy marriage. More About MeLEARN MORE
Strong marriages create strong communities. Too many communities have been torn apart by crumbling marriages. Our children need both of their parents happily living together. This will ensure their proper development into healthy adults able to maintain healthy relationships in the future. The more marriages saved the better our world will be. My mission is help couples who have experienced affairs and high conflict rekindle the flame of love they once felt. Don't you want a Sizzling Hot Marriage?
According to research done by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, families and couples who have attended family or couples therapy sessions indicate high levels of patient satisfaction. Over 98 percent of those surveyed reported that they received good or excellent couples therapy, and over 97 percent of those surveyed said they got the help they needed. After working with a marriage or family therapist, 93 percent of patients said they had more effective tools for dealing with their problems. Respondents also reported improved physical health and the ability to function better at work after attending therapy.
Three Critical Steps to Not Only Save Your Marriage but Take it to the Next Level
How can you work on two relationships at one time? You Can't! You have to decide what really matters in your life. You have to get out of the fantasy world thinking this other person is the answer to all of what you have been missing in your life. If your marriage sucks you've got to stop putting all the blame for that on your spouse. What is the likelihood that your poor relationship skills will show up in your next relationship? Come into reality - you need to fix yourself and stop looking to others for solving your personal problems. Stop blaming your spouse for your bad behaviors. Stop dragging another person into your folly. Stop hurting yourself.
So you have decided you have invested too much into your marriage to just throw it all away. Smart choice! The pain of an affair will dissipate as you rebuild a brand new mutually satisfying relationship. You both must learn how to forgive and acknowledge your contribution to your marital woes. You must learn how to communicate effectively. You must mature emotionally and socially. You must learn to forgive and love yourself. You must be able to love your spouse when they are attacking you. The guilty spouse must be open to living under a magnifying glass to rebuild their credibility with your spouse.
Affairs never happen in a vacuum. The relationship has to be ripe for an affair. Affairs usually happen when couples have drifted apart over time. Affairs are usually the result of not listening to one another's pleas for time, attention and sex. Couples get in this condition from unresolved issues. Some of those issues might be past abuse, pornography/sex addiction, low self-esteem, parental divorce, communication issues, etc. To move forward in your marriage you've got to resolve these unresolved issues. It's a long road to recovery after an affair. Make it a successful journey with Lifestyle.
Many couples ask this question. My answer is always "If you are willing to do the work you can have the relationship you want." In this book I share what it takes to achieve and maintain a happy marriage. This book chronicles how one couple got their sizzle back as they worked through the husband's pornography addiction. Download my book and get started learning how you can turn things around in your marriage.DOWNLOAD MY BOOK TODAY!
The path to getting back on the same team after an affair or intense bickering may be long and hard but it is not impossible. When couples are not able to get their needs met within their relationship they naturally look to other sources to find happiness. But most people don't really know how to be happy. I will teach you! Take the next 12 months to focus on building a strong foundation for lasting happiness in your marriage. My Sizzling Hot Marriage Coaching Program employs four intervention methods to produce change in your marriage. Couples who have completed this program report a satisfying marriage they never thought was possible.
Nothing can compare to having your personal coach listen and keep you motivated to move toward your personal and marital goals. Over the next 12-months you will enjoy individual, couple and family sessions designed to help you heal from the past and learn how to communicate effectively and love each other. The Sizzling Hot Marriage Coaching Program includes unlimited coaching sessions throughout your year long subscription. This effectively eliminates all the limitations you may encounter dealing with insurance companies. Schedule your in person or technology assisted sessions anytime your coach is available using our online portal.
A big part of the change process comes from your interaction with other couples in the program. Other couples seeking to grow their marriage will be a positive influence that will drive you to be a better spouse. It is amazing to experience the synergy that happens when several couples who are hungry for a better marriage get together. During the Sizzle Mindset Retreat you will get to know the other couples in your cohort as you kick off this program. You will have an opportunity to interact with the other couples on a weekly basis during our weekly class on Sunday evenings at 6 pm CST. Then you will get together with all the couples during the annual Sizzling Hot Marriage Summit.
During the first four month phase of the program you will receive 16 online lessons for you to learn about marriage, your spouse and yourself. You will gain valuable tips to enhance your relationship and your own mood. The time you spend reading and reflecting on each lesson will change your outlook on life and help you become a better you. You will learn how to love your spouse and yourself. On average you will need to spend about an hour each week reading each lesson alone. Then when you get together with your spouse during your weekly date and 5 hours together you will discuss the lesson together. This will deepen your intimacy and improve your conversational relationship.
Probably the single most effective aspect of this program is prayer. Prayer changes things! The family that prays together stays together. Most of the couples in the program need a miracle to turn around their marriage. Bad feelings often have overtaken all the good feelings. Many are convinced that their spouse can't change. What I have learned in my life is that God can change anybody. And He can change any situation. That is why we must reach out to Him for help. Prayer is our connection with God. As we speak to Him He speaks to us. Making God the center of our wellness makes him the authority in our lives. This levels the playing field for couples as the they now have to live up to God's expectations.
Get the Sparks Flying Again during this over the weekend marriage intensive. Your marriage will never be the same again. This intimate setting will inspire you to deeper levels of intimacy. You'll have fun and get to relax too. The coaching program begins with this weekend intervention with your cohort of couples. This weekend is designed to kick-start the healing process with the aim of restoring your hope in your marriage and re-energizing your commitment to one another.COUNT US IN!
Fun! Fun! Fun! Why should rebuilding your marriage be boring? This annual retreat is packed with fun and engaging activities designed to keep you focused on your marriage and connected to your lifeline of cohort couples. You won't just learn a lot you're going to have a lot of FUN!
"This program has forced us to learn to communicate better with one another. It has taught us skills that will sustain our relationship for the long haul!"
"This program so far has taught me I’m not alone. It’s taught me that loving someone and living together is not easy .. we are so different, but trying and listening to him and putting God in the mix we can do anything!!"
Nobody gets married to divorce. You don't have to surrender to defeat. Marriage and Family Therapist Joe Follette can help you bring life back into your marriage.